We’ve all heard the golden rule. Did you know that it also works in reverse? Treat yourself as you want others to treat you.
How we treat ourselves is how we invite others to treat us. It is our boundary threshold. If we are unkind in our internal monologue toward ourself, we then permit the same unkindness from others. If we take little-to-no time out for personal care, we show others that it’s acceptable to devalue us as well.
If you want to improve how others treat you, start treating yourself with more patience, kindness, love, respect and appreciation. Show yourself that your time is valuable by spending it on activities that tend to your wellbeing.
This is your one and precious life. Show your body and your mind that you value and respect it. Here are some suggestions for simple and free self-care:
- Say “I love you.”
…to yourself. Find a mirror, look into your own eyes and say those three impactful words – out loud. Then tell yourself all the qualities and characteristics about yourself that you love. Find ten new gems each day to tell yourself – again, out loud – that you love.
- Give yourself undivided attention.
Spend solo time with yourself to notice your thoughts and behavior, reflect on your day, visualize the future you want to create, and set intentions for your day and life. This is time where the phone, computer, TV and other distractions are off and put away. Learn to be comfortable with yourself and the stillness. If you can enjoy your own company, so will others.
- Love your body.
Care for it as tenderly as you would a newborn child. Nourish and strengthen it through food and exercise so that it can keep all its automatic functions running smoothly inside you. Tend to its aches and pains rather than “pushing through.” Give it ample rest. Allow it to experience the pleasure of touch, whether that is through hugging loved ones or maybe receiving a foot and shoulder massage.
- Make time for play and rest.
As the adage goes, no one gets to the end of their life wishing they had worked more and harder. Aside from the pleasure factor, which in itself is enough (and kinda the point of life, just sayin’), play is how we become our most creative, problem-solving selves. If we could turn our jobs into a game, or if it involved our true-passions, our success and impact would be exponentially increased. When we balance that play with rest, we not only recharge our one, precious body, but we also give our subconscious, higher-self the space to do its most loving and best work.
You’ll find that incorporating these simple, yet highly beneficial practices into your day will add joy, improve your overall health and shift the dynamic of your professional and personal relationships.
If you find these practices difficult, or a strong voice inside that tells you it’s selfish, coaching can help. Let’s talk!