For anyone who has ever started and completed a house-remodeling project – whether that’s redoing a kitchen or bathroom or maybe it’s a simple updating of a patio deck – you probably know that it never goes exactly as planned, no matter how much planning you do. There is always some unforeseeable hiccup that knocks things off course – sometimes slightly, other times way off course.
For those who haven’t personally undertaken a house project, maybe you’ve seen HGTV’s popular Property Brothers enough times to realize that the unexpected is to be expected. And that it’s all part of the process. (And frankly makes it more entertaining to watch.)
This is the process we call a Hero’s Journey. When we take all that we’ve dreamed up and envisioned in our minds eye and bring it to life. From sketches and measurements to purchasing materials and beginning the work.
And then wait – some new piece of information is revealed. The original plumbing was leaking and now there’s wood rot that needs to be addressed. Or there are issues with the foundation stability. Or there’s a ventilation pipe in the wall that was to be torn down. Or the cabinet company ordered the wrong dimensions and it will take another month to get the right ones in. Whatever the hurdles might be; they halt progress until addressed.
The same is true for any big vision you have for your life. Any dream you want to make a reality.
We can plan, plan, plan for each step of the way and there will inevitably be unexpected hurdles. It will always be harder than we expected…and that’s ok!
When we can settle in and realize that there are supposed to be hiccups, that there’s no way to predict every possible outcome, nor can we be expected to have all the information before it’s revealed…then we stop resisting and start leaning into the process.
Rather than believing, “It wasn’t supposed to be this way,” we instead believe, “This is an interesting new development. The plot thickens!” We shift our mindset and that shifts our emotional and behavioral states.
We become adventurers, explorers and students of the world. We learn, we absorb, we trouble-shoot and we gain so much more from the process than if it were to go exactly as we planned. And each victory tastes that much sweeter. Each obstacle we overcome is a badge of pride.
Because if you’re truly passionate about your dream, your hero’s journey will be worth it – AND it will feel like play!