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How Fascination and Joy can Lead you to Your Purpose

From the smallest insect to the largest whale, each living being was created for a purpose and plays an integral role in the ecosystem. In an untouched and raw form, all of nature works in balance.

You, too, have been given talents, strengths, preferences and tastes that combine to create the unique you that you are. They wouldn’t be yours, and you wouldn’t be here, if you weren’t needed to serve the world in only the way you can. If everyone played the part they were born to, humanity could also be in balance.

Instead, we’ve built hierarchical power pyramids and convinced ourselves that the only way to be happy is to be at the top. Many struggle to stand on the backs of others to get just a bit higher, and higher. All the while believing if we could only reach the next level, then we’d finally be happy. Yet, upon reaching each level, we thirst for more. It’s never enough. (If this doesn’t sound even a teensy bit familiar, where do you live and can I join you?)

Why is it not enough? Because higher isn’t really what we want at our core. It doesn’t fit into the shape of our hearts, which knows our purpose and loves every aspect of it.

In ancient wisdom traditions, elders encouraged their youth to play their hearts out. Through observing what stoked the individual’s attention, fascination and imagination, they could determine how this child could eventually serve their greater community. While this practice has been lost in our current culture, everyone has an opportunity to tap back into that tradition to find their purpose.

The breadcrumbs are in what delights, fascinates, and energizes you.

Growing up, how did you love to play? What did you dream up? What imaginary problems did you solve? What topics fascinated you? What information did you soak up and remember easily?

Assuming you’re an adult, what activities cause you to lose all track of time because you are so enamored with the experience?

If you could get a free day to do whatever you wanted to do, no matter the financial cost (and within legal and moral boundaries), what would you do? (If your answer is sleep, then my hunch is you’re overworked. So what would you do after you caught up on however much sleep you need?)

There is a way to use what brings you joy to serve others. It makes you happy because it’s part of your path, it’s part of who you’re intended to be and what you’re intended to provide your community. It simply requires your imagination and problem-solving to understand how to make it your vocation.

It may not even exist as a job, business, product or service yet. You may need to create it. And while that takes work, your passion and sense of fulfillment will outweigh the trials to create it. If it doesn’t, you haven’t yet found the right fit, though you’re probably in the ballpark.

If you don’t love what you do, you’re robbing the world of your gifts. You owe it to yourself, your loved ones, and your community to live a joyful life that also happens to give the world exactly what it needs.

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If you’re ready to explore what brings you joy in order to find your purpose, coaching can help. Let’s talk!

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What you can expect from coaching

Improving Life, One Day At A Time

The most common question I get from new clients is “What can I expect? What do I need to prepare?”

To their relief, my answer is that there is nothing to prepare other than to create the mental and emotional space to have an honest conversation in a safe and confidential environment.

During our initial meeting, we will discuss the area(s) that are the least fulfilling or satisfying in their life: The reason they sought out coaching to begin with.  They’ll talk, I’ll listen and ask clarifying and probing questions to dig deeper.  In fact, I won’t have the answers they’re seeking…THEY will. I’ll merely use the tools that I know work (from personal experience using them on myself and others) to help my clients extract the answers that they hold inside.

Each and every one of us has an inner voice, also known as our gut. As adults we often ignore or push it to the side for a variety of reasons (social influence, upbringing, years and years of habit, etc.) and these become mental and emotional blocks that are so rutted into our minds that we need to re-teach it to have new and different thoughts. Coaching is one form of helping you to re-learn to hear your inner voice again.